I turned 42 this week. On a Tuesday. Not a glamorous Saturday. Not even a “let’s extend this into a long weekend” situation. A full, ordinary, middle of the week Tuesday. The kind usually reserved for meetings and mild chaos.

But plot twist was that I didn’t work. Did not move a muscle other than the 10K steps I have committed to some fitness god in my head.

I went for snacks with friends at midnight and coffee with friends in the afternoon..The rebellious kind. On a weekday. Like someone who either owns the company or has completely given up on managing their wasitline. Then came shopping. Daytime shopping. The kind where the stores are quiet and you briefly feel like the main character in a movie about financially irresponsible decisions.

By evening, it was a quiet dinner with family. “Quiet” meaning fewer people, not lower decibels. There was cake. There were presents. There were wildly generous compliments about how 42 is “basically 30,” which I accepted without cross-examination.

Now, in peak adult-life fashion, not everyone could make it.

My closest friend was at a family wedding, probably dancing under fairy lights and NOT sending me blurry videos Another was traveling for work, being globally important and another one couldn’t step out because she didn’t have her help that evening, because this is who we are now! We schedule joy around childcare, corporate calendars, and logistical diplomacy.

And yet, it didn’t feel incomplete. Because their love showed up anyway. In calls. In voice notes. In promises of postponed celebrations involving carbs and advance presents!

And then there was my husband. Poor guy was on his absolute best behavior. If there were awards for “Birthday Week Performance,” he’d have taken gold. His health hasn’t been the easiest lately, but strangely, that also meant we got time. Real time. Slower conversations. unrushed moments. A little more togetherness than usual. It felt grounding, soft, intentional and relevant to ripe old age.

At 42, birthdays aren’t about gathering everyone in one room. They’re about knowing they’re there — scattered across weddings, airports, school schedules but firmly in your corner.

It’s not loud anymore. It’s layered. It’s thoughtful gifts. It’s people trying. It’s choosing to take the day off on a Tuesday just because you can.

And honestly, that feels better than any Saturday blowout ever could. Now excuse me while I moisturize and confidently declare that 42 is the new 29 — but with better judgment and stronger opinions!

Till later!

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